Families that come together post-divorce may need a different terminology than “blended family.” Blending something together connotes losing individual identities and forming a new collective identity.
“Not my circus, not my monkeys” is a Polish proverb that wisely describes the need to know when other people’s feelings are your responsibility or not. While going through divorce, you have to manage many feelings for yourself and your children. Taking on other people’s feelings and reactions can deplete your own resources.
Tsunami. Earthquake. Floods. These major natural disasters are often used to speak about the depth of emotions you feel at any stage of a divorce.
The old adage “once bitten, twice shy” may hold true for some people after a relationship fails. However, some people jump quickly into new relationships instead of taking the time to heal from the pain and anguish of being left or feeling rejected.
Divorce inevitably brings about a series of losses, and it becomes difficult to remember that the losses may make room for some gains in the long run. There are tangible financial losses, but there may also be intangible and subtle losses that may not be apparent until later in the process of coping with divorce.